You may already know that I am just back from a month in Vietnam. The trip was quite interesting. One hour after landing there my hands were covered with fresh human blood, and after two hours I was detained in the police headquarters. I thought I wouldn't make it back here.
Sound scary? Yes, it was. We had a car accident and, while we were fine, the drunken guy on the bicycle we hit was almost dead. To help him breathe more easily I tilted his head, but when I removed my hands they were dripping with his blood. It was a terrifiying experience.
So how about you? What have you been doing while I was gone? How many ads have you responded to? :-)
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Question: I like this girl but I didn't tell her face to face. I told her on the internet and she said she doesn't feel the way I do. Now every time I talk to a girl, I start acting like a jerk. I think I am emotinally unstable. What can I do?
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This week's article is very important. It is about finding yourself, knowing what you want.
When I was 20, I was desperate to find myself a mate, but all my relationships were only lasting about a month. I began to think that finding "the one" was just a myth. Then a friend told me to get to know myself and what I want first.
That is when I realized I didn't want a mate. The future I wanted involved traveling to Paris, London, Tokyo and Rome. A mate would hold me back. I want the freedom to fly. I realized that my previous relationships failed because I was a student; all I did with my time was study and have fun. I know now I am not yet ready for a serious relationship.
With this self-knowledge I can confidently walk into a bar or a dance floor without worrying about someone checking me out, and you should know by now that confidence is sexy... Aah, I love myself. That is another lesson; you can't love someone else until you love yourself. Now finding "the one" isn't hard any more. The point is before you find the "perfect" one; you have to grow into one yourself!
Anyway, here is the article:
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Single? Married? Find Your Soul Mate
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Single.
The word congers up so many meanings. Webster's Dictionary describes single as -being the only one, unmarried; unique; solitary, for one person or thing. To someone in a bad marriage the word would mean peace. To another, being in an unhappy relationship, single would be seen as freedom. But to men and women everywhere that are not in a relationship it signifies loneliness, a condition that needs to be rectified.
We live in a society that is quick to get out of relationships, then just as quick to get back in so the word "single" does not attach itself to them for long. Being single is just too embarrassing. You feel left out if you're single. You can't double date with your friends, go to couple parties or entertain couples etc.
This creates the need for the hundreds of dating services available, on and off line. A friend recently convinced me to join an online dating forum. A quick look around made me see how many men and women are looking for the same thing - a soul mate. Almost every ad mentions," looking for my soul-mate". Most of the ads are so serious, screaming in desperation- " I have tried every where, please let me find you here!" The ads list their wants like a shopping list that needs to be met in a hurray- "attention shoppers ten minutes until closing".
I decided on a different approach. I titled mine "Auction! Model 8! Mint Condition!" I then went on to list my "features and options" like I was a rare car up for auction. Instead of "looking for” I put "bidder's requirements". Do I expect to meet my true love this way? No, but I have had some interesting chats!
For me, being single is a good way to be right now. I am happy and content. Being alone has allowed me to get to know myself and make changes that I feel are necessary for myself and any future relationship. How can you be in a relationship and not know who you are deeper than- I like this, I like that? That's why so many people "lose themselves" or "get taken over" by their mates. When the relationship ends, they are lost. That other person had literally become their whole life.
If you are in a relationship right now, take the time to get to know yourself independently of your partner. Create separate interests, goals and friends. When you are together, you will bring more to the table. If the relationship ends, you will not be as devastated.
You will always have you.
If you are single right now, spend time with yourself, your thoughts. By making yourself busy every minute of the day you are only avoiding yourself. Make the time to spend with you.
By asking and finding out who you are, your life will be full no matter what you do or who you do it with. Your burning need to "find someone" will be lessened because you will be self-satisfied.
You will become your own soul mate. You will change your search to "looking for a companion soul-mate".
But beware! The dating services might go out of business!
By Liz Wertman,
"Divorce Strategy for Men and Women" is your guide through the divorce maze. Discover how to reduce legal fees, stay out of court and maintain your parenting rights.
http://www.divorcewell.com
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