Issue #17: Good communication helps November 29, 2001
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Weekly Article:
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Communication Skills
by Rinatta Paries
Have you ever initiated a difficult conversation only to have the other person become immediately defensive? Have you tried to talk to someone, hoping to be heard, understood, but instead watched the person glaze over? Have you been putting off a conversation for fear of a negative reaction?
There is a key to overcoming all of the above, a key to increasing your chances of being heard and understood. The key is creating a context before you begin the conversation.
By definition the word context means the background, circumstances, framework of an issue. To create a context for the conversation is to create a background, a framework for what you are about to say. A context prepares the person for what is about to come so his/her energy can be focused on what you are saying instead of on what is coming next.
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Turkey Day
by Kwame DeRoche
Giving thanks for all we have. Funny, for a holiday that in a way celebrates taking stuff from some half-naked native Americans. Think about it. All those settlers weren’t happy with what they had, so they came here and took stuff from the red man.
I mean, this time of year, they gloss over the fact that these folks showed up and “discovered” all this “new world” stuff. The land, the trees, everything. PUH-leeese. Like Chris Rock once said, it’s like some group of people showing up and “discovering” your house, while you still live there. Hello! I’m standing right here. You didn’t discover anything!
Then, to make matters worse, these random people move into your living room, but you’re nice about it. You even let them hold the remote. Then they take over your bathroom, and your kitchen, and the next thing you know, you and your whole family are living in your linen closet, buck nekkid. But on the upside, they let you sell cigarettes and gas at discounted prices, and if you’re really good, they’ll even let you open a casino in there.
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It’s OK To Be Selfish Once In A While!
by Jeanine Herrin
So, try to set aside a little time just for yourself! Even if it’s an hour or two a couple of times a week. (a whole day would be even better) Have lunch with the girls, go shopping by yourself, have your hair and nails done, try reading a book! Join a bowling league, play golf or tennis. Maybe even take some classes of some kind, art maybe, writing, cooking? The list is endless of the things you can come up with! Isn’t that what these “Empty Nest “ years are suppose to be about? Having more time to do the things you’ve been wanting to do?
If you have a spouse, take some short week-ends just for the two of you! Get to know each other again, (get to know yourself again!) just have some fun with each other. The rest of the world can manage to get along without you for a little while.
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Don't Do the Holiday 7
by Greg Landry, M.S.
5. Have lots of "healthy" foods available at your home during the holidays. Make a big fruit salad to keep in the frig when you need a snack. Have some of your favorite veggies ready to eat for when you're hungry. Make a big salad and keep it ready to eat in the fridge. Don't make the holidays a junk food free-for-all.
6. Don't allow yourself to get too hungry. The hungrier you are, the less control you have over your eating. Always eat some healthy, filling food before going to a party, dinner, or any situation where you will be exposed to lots of tempting food.
7. Strictly limit or avoid alcohol. Alcohol is really bad news - I call it the "triple whammy"! it depresses your metabolism, stimulates your appetite, and it's loaded with calories.
8. Incorporate intervals into most of your holiday aerobic workouts.
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