Be yourself and find your perfect match January 31, 2002
How many times have people told you to just be yourself and you will be just fine? When talking about love and relationships they are more correct than you might think.
When most people start dating and looking for a lasting relationship, they 'put their best foot forward' so to speak. This is why it takes months, if not years of dating to uncover weather or not you are truly compatible with the person you are seeing and possibly already in love with. We all want someone who loves us for ourselves, but why, then are we so afraid to show our potential loves who and what we are?
I am not saying to be a manner less slob on a date, what I am saying is don't fake an interest in something you hate or play a part you aren't comfortable with to get attention. They will not get to know you for who you are, and will feel deceived when they find out that the 'real you' is not what they expected. Not to mention, your self-esteem will suffer because you aren’t being loved for your true self.
Being yourself in a relationship also has another advantage. It weeds out the people who are not right for you. If you are a career-minded woman, it will weed out all the men who want you to be a stay at home wife. If you are a sensitive man, it will weed out the women who want you to play the big macho jerk for their benefit.
Once you get locked into the role of Mr. or Ms. perfect is it really difficult to break out of. Ask yourself if keeping this person is worth being an actor/actress for the rest of your life and I'm sure your answer will be no. Be yourself, love yourself and you will find someone to love who truly loves you for yourself.
Atheneris is the editor and site owner of www.DaytonPersonals.com.
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