The 90/10 secret is incredible! Apply it and it will
transform your life. What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is determined by how you react.
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to
us. For an example we cannot stop the car from
breaking down.
The other 90% is different. You determine the other
90%! How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red
light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let
people fool you, YOU can control how you react and
determine 90% of life! Let's use an example.
You're eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your
business shirt. You have no control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how
you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for
knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in
tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and
criticize them for placing the cup to close to the
edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You
storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs you find your daughter has been to
busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for
school. She misses the bus. You rush to the car and
drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 mph in a 30 mph
speed limit.. After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60
away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs to the
building without saying good-bye. After arriving at
the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it
seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to
going home. When you arrive home you find a small
wedge in your relationship with your spouse and
daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the
morning.
Why did you have a bad day? ___
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is d. You had no control over what
happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5
seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what
could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to
cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to
be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your
briefcase you come back down in time look through the
window and see your child getting on the bus. She
turns and waves.
You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work.
You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the
staff. Your boss comments on how good of day you are
having.
Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both
started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because
of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control
over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined
by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the
90/10 secret.
=> If someone says something negative about you, do not
be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on
glass.
=> Someone cuts you off in traffic. Why lose your
temper, curse, or pound the steering wheel? WHO CARES
if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the
blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10 secret
and do not worry about it!
=> You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or
get irritated? It will work out. Put your "worrying"
energy and time into finding another job.
You now know the 90/10 secret. Apply it and you will
be amazed at the results. Find more articles at
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